Question:
My best friend — a Terrier — has just died. I want to have a memorial service for my dog. Is this weird?
Answer:
What I hear you wanting is “permission” to have a memorial service, and I highly encourage you to pay tribute to a life shared with your beloved furry friend. A memorial service, an important ritual, is a beautiful way to honor your love.
How to plan a memorial service for your dog
As you plan the service, there are a few things to consider. A question many people have is, “How do I invite people to a memorial service for a pet?” When you think about it, what you are really wanting people to do is to support you during this very difficult time. Therefore, the invitation may look something like this:
“My friend, you know how much Mico meant to me. I am really grieving during this very difficult time and am having a service to honor Mico and how special she was in my life. As a friend, I’d like your support on Saturday at 2 p.m. to celebrate Mico’s life.”
The service can include aspects such as:
- A video depicting the life of your pet
- Special readings that could include poems, letters, and memory stories
- A eulogy recounting your pet’s life
- A memory table set up that could include your pet’s favorites: toys, treats, collar and leash, blanket, clothes, as well as flowers and candles
- The reading of Rainbow Bridge
There are also ways to get your friends involved in the service and honor your pet:
- Have your friends bring written stories that you can include in a scrapbook
- Take a donation of food items, toys, money, and other pet-related items to donate to a local shelter as a way to give back to needy pets
- Plant a tree or flower in honor of your pet
- Place a rock in your flower garden
- Organize a walk in memory of your pet, donating the money to a favorite pet charity
As Dr. Alan Wolfelt says, “When words are inadequate, have a ceremony.” Please, do celebrate this special relationship!
